Research results indicate that intimate contact can profoundly affect health and well-being. The capacity for intimacy, however, differs from person to person. Given its origin in the symbiotic phase of development and its being influenced by the separation-individuation process, the capacity for intimacy is subject to disruption by fear of object loss and fear of merger. In this article, I examine these and other fears as impediments to intimacy. Because of the affective engagement between patient and analyst, these impediments can best be studied, understood, and treated within the psychoanalytic relationship.
KEY WORDS: intimacy; love; psychoanalysis.Separation and connectedness exist simultaneously and make each other possible. At the same time I was in here and he was over there, we were also at one -M. Almost all clinicians would agree that intimacy is good. Most people desire it, and most consider it basic to well-being. Research results indicate that, compared with people not in intimate relationships, those in such relationships have lower mortality rates, are less likely to develop mental and physical illnesses, experience fewer stress-related symptoms, and have fewer accidents (Prager, 1995).