“…Autism education has tended to focus on the development of the individual child, but a persistent issue in this is trying to separate out the individual from this rich and complex social background (Kasari, Locke and Gulsrud et al., ). The usefulness of such an approach, indeed, is itself questionable because children's social‐emotional learning is based on dyadic experiences and group processes, and cannot be viewed as individual behaviour alone (Webster, Feiler and Webster et al., ). Practitioners are expected to identify clear learning targets and, in some cases, directly teach social skills and facilitate capacities for friendship and play, but in doing this, a constant difficulty is being specific about the nature of a child's social‐emotional needs (Ruble, McGrew and Dalrymple et al., ), for example, how his autism manifests itself within a particular setting, and how other children view him and receive his communication.…”