While Greco-Roman authors frequently disparage wives as unproductive, wasteful, lacking in self-control and thus untrustworthy, another tradition celebrates marriage as a cooperative partnership between a likeminded man and woman. The focus of marriage, however, was the production of legitimate heirs, and as a result the most commonly praised quality of the Greco-Roman wife was her sexual virtue. This trait gave a free woman social value, and also status within the community. The quality of such virtue was assessed through dress, deportment, and everyday behavior. The mythical/legendary accounts of Penelope, the wife of the Greek hero Odysseus, and Lucretia, the wife of L. Tarquinius Collatinus (one of the founders of the Roman republic), canonized female sexual loyalty within marriage as an important female trait and provided models for generations of Greco-Roman women. The association of women with wool-working meant that wool-working became symbolic of the good and sexually virtuous wife; listing this activity on a tombstone was high praise for any woman. The accounts of Penelope and Lucretia also show how female fidelity was important for a stable society and how its defilement was seen as violence against the entire community. The practices surrounding marriage and the marriage ceremony, however, varied temporally and geographically. While a romantic sensibility surrounds marriage in various periods, starting in classical Greece, the arranged marriage was the norm, at least in the upper classes. The focus of this chapter on classical and Hellenistic Greece and on republican and imperial Rome is necessitated by the evidence.
Greek Marriage in Archaic and Classical GreeceRecent considerations of social status, domestic space, religious roles, and dowry suggest that Athenian wives were not so secluded and that the function of marriage in ancient A Companion to Greek and Roman Sexualities, First Edition. Edited by Thomas K. Hubbard.