This article presents a sociological examination of men who have sex with men in public places, commercial sex locations, and via the internet. Through a review of types of erotic oases, characteristics of men who frequent such places, communication modes, dangers, and the processes of seeking, finding, and conquering other men as sexual partners, this overview highlights the ways that sexuality and gender intersect. Focus is on the fluid and malleable nature of gender and sexuality, and the multitude of ways that such concepts are experienced.