Abstract:Based on interviews and ethnographic fieldwork within BDSM communities in Sweden, this article focuses on links between non-monogamy and BDSM. Drawing on Halberstam´s concept of queer space, the following questions are investigated: What are the connections between BDSM and non-monogamous communities? How does interaction between BDSM and non-monogamous practices create non-normative logic? The transgression of one norm makes it easier to transgress other norms as well, providing opportunities to find new ways… Show more
“…Consequently, another three reasons to engage in sex were added to the final questionnaire. Since some authors (Carlström and Andersson, 2019;Vilkin and Sprott, 2021) suggest that non-conventional sexual practices like BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism) or kink might be a significant factor to engage in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, the following questionnaire item was developed: 15. Specific sex: "I wanted to have sex which I cannot have with my other partner (such as kink, fetish, anal, etc.)"…”
Section: Methodsmentioning
confidence: 99%
“…For example, it was expected that individuals would seek sex with their primary partners more often to procreate, for utilitarian reasons, to express love and commitment, or other feelings like anger or feeling sorry. However, individuals would more often engage in sex with their secondary partners seeking new experiences, a different type of sex ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ; Vilkin and Sprott, 2021 ), or another gender ( Jordal, 2011 ; Compton and Bowman, 2017 ; Shao et al, 2021 ), and to experience the thrill of the forbidden ( Morin, 1996 ; Fishbach, 2009 ; Ruedy et al, 2013 ).…”
This study compared motivations of individuals in non-monogamous relationships to engage in sex with their different partners (n = 596, out of which 103 non-consensual non-monogamous, 135 polyamorous, 204 swinging, 154 in open relationships; women—38.8%, men—59.7%, other gender—1.5%; age range: from 18 to 65+ years; 86% of respondents between 25 and 54 years old; majority of the respondents are in a long-term relationship). The research aim was to identify whether there are differences in reasons to engage in sex with respondents’ primary versus secondary partners. Presented with 17 reasons to engage in sexual activity, the respondents rated the frequency with which they engage in sex for each reason with their different partners. Questions for 14 reasons to engage in sex were created based on the YSEX? questionnaire and three questions were created specifically for non-monogamous population. The three new questions addressed the desire for a specific type of sex (such as kink, fetish, etc.), desire to have sex with a partner of another gender than one’s primary partner, and desire to experience the thrill of the forbidden. The results indicated that there are significant differences in motivation to engage in sex with one’s primary versus secondary partner for most of the reasons. Additionally, this study investigated whether there are differences in motivation to engage in sex with different partners depending on the relationship arrangement. The data analysis shows that there are differences in reasons to engage in sex with one’s different partners between non-consensually and consensually non-monogamous groups. This research compliments existing body of research with new reasons to engage in sex, it demonstrates that non-monogamous people engage in sex with their different partners for different reasons and reveals that these may vary depending on the type of the relationship arrangement.
“…Consequently, another three reasons to engage in sex were added to the final questionnaire. Since some authors (Carlström and Andersson, 2019;Vilkin and Sprott, 2021) suggest that non-conventional sexual practices like BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism) or kink might be a significant factor to engage in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, the following questionnaire item was developed: 15. Specific sex: "I wanted to have sex which I cannot have with my other partner (such as kink, fetish, anal, etc.)"…”
Section: Methodsmentioning
confidence: 99%
“…For example, it was expected that individuals would seek sex with their primary partners more often to procreate, for utilitarian reasons, to express love and commitment, or other feelings like anger or feeling sorry. However, individuals would more often engage in sex with their secondary partners seeking new experiences, a different type of sex ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ; Vilkin and Sprott, 2021 ), or another gender ( Jordal, 2011 ; Compton and Bowman, 2017 ; Shao et al, 2021 ), and to experience the thrill of the forbidden ( Morin, 1996 ; Fishbach, 2009 ; Ruedy et al, 2013 ).…”
This study compared motivations of individuals in non-monogamous relationships to engage in sex with their different partners (n = 596, out of which 103 non-consensual non-monogamous, 135 polyamorous, 204 swinging, 154 in open relationships; women—38.8%, men—59.7%, other gender—1.5%; age range: from 18 to 65+ years; 86% of respondents between 25 and 54 years old; majority of the respondents are in a long-term relationship). The research aim was to identify whether there are differences in reasons to engage in sex with respondents’ primary versus secondary partners. Presented with 17 reasons to engage in sexual activity, the respondents rated the frequency with which they engage in sex for each reason with their different partners. Questions for 14 reasons to engage in sex were created based on the YSEX? questionnaire and three questions were created specifically for non-monogamous population. The three new questions addressed the desire for a specific type of sex (such as kink, fetish, etc.), desire to have sex with a partner of another gender than one’s primary partner, and desire to experience the thrill of the forbidden. The results indicated that there are significant differences in motivation to engage in sex with one’s primary versus secondary partner for most of the reasons. Additionally, this study investigated whether there are differences in motivation to engage in sex with different partners depending on the relationship arrangement. The data analysis shows that there are differences in reasons to engage in sex with one’s different partners between non-consensually and consensually non-monogamous groups. This research compliments existing body of research with new reasons to engage in sex, it demonstrates that non-monogamous people engage in sex with their different partners for different reasons and reveals that these may vary depending on the type of the relationship arrangement.
“…Literature suggests that non-monogamous relationships provide an opportunity to meet one's diverse needs through multiple relationships (Mitchell et al, 2014;Balzarini and Muise, 2020), which leads to a conclusion that non-monogamous individuals may have more or other needs than monogamous individuals and result in additional reasons to engage in sex compared to monogamous individuals. Carlström and Andersson (2019) investigated the relationship between BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism) interests and nonmonogamy. They state that non-monogamy is a logical choice for people who identify as queer if they want to satisfy their kinky needs (Carlström and Andersson, 2019).…”
Section: Methodsmentioning
confidence: 99%
“… Carlström and Andersson (2019) investigated the relationship between BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism) interests and non-monogamy. They state that non-monogamy is a logical choice for people who identify as queer if they want to satisfy their kinky needs ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ). Moreover, being kinky is a transgression of norms per se , which also facilities the transgression of the norms of monogamy ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ).…”
Section: Methodsmentioning
confidence: 99%
“…They state that non-monogamy is a logical choice for people who identify as queer if they want to satisfy their kinky needs ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ). Moreover, being kinky is a transgression of norms per se , which also facilities the transgression of the norms of monogamy ( Carlström and Andersson, 2019 ). The study by Vilkin and Sprott (2021) supports this idea, stating that kink interests are an important motivator to engage in consensual non-monogamy.…”
This study compared motivations to engage in sex between monogamous and non-monogamous respondents (n = 1,238, out of which 641 monogamous and 596 non-monogamous respondents; women—47.4%, men—50.9%, other gender—1.7%; age: M = 27.78 years, SD = 7.53, range = 18–62). The research aim was to identify whether there are differences in self-reported reasons to engage in sexual activity between these two groups. Presented with 17 reasons to engage in sexual activity, the respondents rated the frequency with which they engage in sex for each reason. While both monogamous and non-monogamous respondents reported to engage in sex with the same frequency for the reasons of sexual release and physical desirability of a partner, the research uncovered that non-monogamous respondents engage in sex significantly more often to seek new experiences, to boost self-esteem, to guard their mate, to have a specific kind of sex (such as anal, kink, or fetish) or to experience the thrill of the forbidden. Non-monogamous respondents reported higher frequency to engage in sex for most reasons overall. The study also revealed that there are differences in reasons to engage in sex among men and women, some of the differences are related to the relationship status (monogamous or non-monogamous), while others are universal for men or women irrespective of their monogamy status.
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