“…Malay youth, firstly, want to live in harmony (Provencher, 1972). This harmonious conduct which is connected to the notion of Malay's akal/budi (emotion-reason relationships) is grounded in the ideas of compromise, respect, cooperation, tolerance, modesty, patience, forgiveness and repentance (Bakri, 2013;Hasan, 2009;Khoo, 2007;norman, 2011;Ruzy & Shahizah, 2010;Wan norhasniah, 2010). This politeness translates into a Malay maxim, biar mati anak jangan mati adat (let the child die but not the custom) (Bakri, 2013;Sulaiman, 2013) which has been used throughout, suggesting the longevity of Malay adat through normalization.…”