“…They may be persuaded to do so as a bid for health and healing through appropriate (but not punitive) accountability and forbearance. Though wounded, Jade can be invited to consider the following advantages of surrendering inflated VSIRO: First, from a balanced VSIRO, appropriate forbearance and forgiving that includes accountability (Butler, Dahlin, & Fife, ) can help Jade's own healing, transforming destructive anger to benevolent indignation (Butler et al, ; Meloy‐Miller et al, ) and renewing peace and tranquility, as well as allow for the possibility of relationship healing and reconciliation (Baskin & Enright, ; Butler et al, ; Hargrave & Pfitzer, ; McCullough & Worthington, ; Wade et al, ). Second, from a balanced VSIRO relationship position, Jade and Lee can collaborate ethically for Lee's behavior change.…”