( † These authors contributed equally to this work.)Chipscale optical microresonators with integrated planar optical waveguides are useful building blocks for linear, nonlinear and quantum optical photonic devices alike. Loss reduction through improving fabrication processes has resulted in several integrated microresonator platforms attaining quality (Q) factors of several millions. Beyond improvement of quality factor, the ability to operate the microresonator with high coupling ideality in the overcoupled regime is of central importance. In this regime the dominant source of loss constitutes the coupling to a single, desired output channel, which is particularly important not only for quantum optical applications such as the generation of squeezed light and correlated photon pairs but also for linear and nonlinear photonics. However to date, the coupling ideality in integrated photonic microresonator is not well understood, in particular design-dependent losses and their impact on the regime of high ideality. Here we investigate design-dependent parasitic losses, described by the coupling ideality, of the commonly employed microresonator design consisting of a microring resonator waveguide side-coupled to a straight bus waveguide, a system which is not properly described by the conventional input-output theory of open systems, due to the presence of higher-order modes. By systematic characterization of multi-mode high-Q silicon nitride microresonator devices, we show that this design can suffer from low coupling ideality. By performing 3D simulations, we identify the coupling to higher-order bus waveguide modes as the dominant origin of parasitic losses which lead to the low coupling ideality. Using suitably designed bus waveguides, parasitic losses are mitigated with a nearly unity ideality and strong overcoupling (i.e. a ratio of external coupling to internal resonator loss rate > 9), are demonstrated. Moreover, we find that different resonator modes can exchange power through the coupler, which therefore constitutes a mechanism that induces modal coupling, a phenomenon known to distort resonator dispersion properties. Our results demonstrate the potential for significant performance improvements of integrated planar microresonators for applications in quantum optics and nonlinear photonics, achievable by optimized coupler designs.