Inattentive and contented: Relationship commitment and attention to alternatives.

Miller, Rowland S.

doi:10.1037/0022-3514.73.4.758

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“…For example, as compared to singles, heterosexual individuals in dating relationships rated attractive opposite-sex others in advertisements as less physically and sexually attractive (Simpson, Gangestad, & Lerma, 1990). Similarly, when the level of threat was calibrated with participants' level of commitment, committed daters not only rated alternatives as less attractive in terms of physical characteristics, but they also spent less time browsing through pictures of them (Miller, 1997), and devalued them in terms of personal qualities (e.g., sense of humour; Johnson & Rusbult, 1989), and desirability as a romantic partner (Lydon, Fitzsimons, & Naidoo, 2003). In fact, committed individuals have been shown to perceive attractive alternatives as less available to them (Jemmott, Ashby, & Lindenfeld, 1989), and are less likely to engage in emotional and physical infidelity (Drigotas, Safstrom, & Gentilia, 1999).…”

Section: Relationship Maintenance In Response To a Relational Threatmentioning

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Relationship-specific identification and spontaneous relationship maintenance processes.

Linardatos¹,

Lydon²

2011

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

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Attractive alternative partners pose a relational threat to people in romantic relationships. Given that people are often limited in their time and energy, having the capacity to effortlessly respond to such relational threats is extremely useful. In 4 studies, we explored how people's identity in terms of their romantic relationship—their relationship-specific identity—affects their relationship-protective behaviors. We predicted that once a relationship becomes a part of one's sense of self, relationship maintenance responses are exhibited in a relatively fluid, spontaneous manner. In Study 1, we assessed the convergent and divergent validity of relationship-specific identification, demonstrating how it is associated with other relationship constructs. In Study 2, we found that less identified participants mentioned their relationship less than those high in relationship-specific identification, but only when interacting with an attractive member of their preferred sex. In Study 3, using a dot-probe visual cuing task, we found that when primed with an attractive member of their preferred sex, those low in relationship-specific identification gazed longer at attractive preferred-sex others compared to those high in relationship-specific identification. In Study 4, we found that relationship-specific identification was associated with relationship survival 1–3 years after the initial assessment. The present results demonstrate that relationship-specific identification predicts relatively spontaneous, pro-relationship responses in the face of relational threat.

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Section: Relationship Maintenance In Response To a Relational Threatmentioning

confidence: 99%

Relationship-specific identification and spontaneous relationship maintenance processes.

Linardatos¹,

Lydon²

2011

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

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“…This measure contained six items and used the same 0 -8 scale (e.g., "How does the alternative of becoming involved with a different romantic partner compare to your relationship with your current partner?"). Finally, the measure of attention to alternatives was developed by R. S. Miller (1997). This measure contained five items (e.g., "I flirt with people of the opposite sex without telling my partner"; "I am distracted by other people that I find attractive").…”

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Does self-love lead to love for others? A story of narcissistic game playing.

Campbell¹,

Foster²,

Finkel³

2002

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

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Five studies investigated the links among narcissism, self-esteem, and love. Across all studies, narcissism was associated primarily with a game-playing love style. This link was found in reports of general love styles (Study 1a) and of love in ongoing romantic relationships 5). Narcissists' gameplaying love style was the result of a need for power and autonomy (Study 2) and was linked with greater relationship alternatives and lesser commitment (Study 3). Finally, narcissists' self-reports of game playing were confirmed by their partners in past and current relationships (Studies 4, 5). In contrast, self-esteem was negatively linked to manic love and positively linked to passionate love across studies. Implications for the understanding of narcissism in relationships are discussed.If you do not love yourself, you will be unable to love others. (Popular belief quoted by Branden, 1994) There are a whole lot of hearts breakin' tonight from the disease of conceit.-Bob Dylan, "Disease of Conceit" It is popularly believed that self-love is a necessary prerequisite for loving others. As exemplified by the first quote above, this belief permeates the realm of self-help literature (Branden, 1994). At a societal level, this belief may be linked to the self-esteem movement (itself an offshoot of the human potential movement), which has promoted positive self-views as a panacea for a range of social ills from unemployment to violence and teenage pregnancy (Mecca, Smelser, & Vasconcellos, 1989). There are several explanations for why self-love should promote love for others. Perhaps individuals who do not love themselves do not believe that others can love them and thus avoid healthy love relationships. Or perhaps if individuals do not love themselves, they select bad relationships as part of an overall self-destructive strategy. Of course, the presumed link between self-love and love for others may also reflect a misinterpretation of causation. When people love others, they grow in love for themselves-at least if the love is returned.In short, there is a popular belief that loving the self is a net positive for loving others, but the exact causal chain remains unclear (W. K. Campbell & Baumeister, 2001).A second and historically older position suggests quite a different view of self-love. As noted in the second quote above, it is believed that self-love can actually prevent or even be harmful for romantic relationships. This position was described most colorfully by the ancient Greeks in the story of Narcissus. Narcissus was the personification of self-love: He saw himself as beautiful and better than those around him. Unfortunately, it was precisely this self-love that kept Narcissus from forming loving relationships with others. He wandered the country looking for the ideal partner (one potential partner, Echo, had her heart broken by Narcissus), but he fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water and died. Clearly, the Greeks saw self-love as an impediment to loving others as well as a source of sufferi...

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“…When studying the commitment in a relationship, contented partners were found to be less likely to pay attention to the quality of other alternatives (Miller, 1997 …”

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Inattentive and contented: Relationship commitment and attention to alternatives.

Cited by 238 publications

References 46 publications

Relationship-specific identification and spontaneous relationship maintenance processes.

Relationship-specific identification and spontaneous relationship maintenance processes.

Does self-love lead to love for others? A story of narcissistic game playing.

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