“…This "amorphous and multifaceted" (Slade, 2008, p. 209), "vaguely defined and poorly understood" (Holmes, 2018, p. 264) relationship is a necessary and central component of the work due to the child's dependency on their parents to initiate the therapy, liaise with the therapist and pay for the therapy (Kirkbride, 2021), yet it can also be complex and anxiety-ridden.Siskind (1997) suggests there has historically been systemic ambivalence and avoidance surrounding parent work, leaving practitioners feeling unsupported, resigned and burdened in their dealings with parents. This view is supported by a survey of child and adolescent practitioners (Jäderberg et al, 2019), which found that while the vast majority of practitioners worked with parents in some capacity (94.4%), only 58.8% felt competent in this area, with less than half feeling adequately prepared for this work by their training (44.8%), leaving them unsure when and whether to involve parents.Current British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) guidelines recommend careful contracting to avoid the potential "pitfall" of acquiescing to parental expectations to be "kept informed" of the work (BACP, 2018, p. 25). While not explicitly denouncing parental involvement, it evokes a dynamic where parents are potentially impinging intruders who need to be held at bay to retain the sanctity of the child-therapist relationship.…”