Conflict Resolution and Relational Patterns in the Families of Origin of Women and Men

Abstract

COnflICt ResOlutIOn anD RelatIOnal PatteRnsIn the famIlIes Of ORIgIn Of WOmen anD men the aim of the studies was to seek an answer to the following question: Which relationship patterns correlate with different conflict resolution strategies in women's and men's intimate relationships? the subjects were 56 engaged couples (aged 19-37) answering Conflict Resolution strategy Questionnaires, Personal authority in the family system Questionnaires and the family of Origin scale. the network of correlations between conflict resolution strategies and relationship patterns is more complex for women than for men. In the women's group, the correlation connects constructive strategies (dialogue and loyalty) foremost with patterns defining intimacy (or its components). however, destructive strategies (exit and neglect) are related to patterns definitive of individuation levels in the family of origin, independence and position. In the men's group, however, the correlation connects conflict resolution strategies (constructive and destructive) to relationship patterns definitive of partner relations. furthermore, constructive strategies are associated with lower intergeneration triangulation intensity and higher intergenerational intimidation intensity.

Gender Differences in the Motivations for the Use of Sanctions in Conflicts Within Muslim and Jewish Couples

“…This finding could suggest that the meaning of relationships is stronger among women. Women may experience a great deal of frustration deriving from problematic interactions (Kuncewicz, 2011) and so they may more readily use sanctions as a way of getting attention and influencing the situation. Women may perceive that it is safer to use sanctions as means to confer confusion dimensions to the conflict itself, so they can attempt to prove that they are guiltless or less responsible.…”

“…Conflict tactics that have been addressed in the research literature include ignoring (Kuncewicz, 2011), negotiation (Chan, 1992;Gottman, 1994), psychological aggression (Carroll et al, 2010;Gottman, 1994), moderate physical aggression, and severe physical aggression (O'Leary, 1999;Straus, 1990Straus, , 2008 However, while the distinction in most studies between physical aggression and psychological aggression has received the lion's share of attention, less attention has been paid to other forms of aggression. In other words, less attention has been paid to actions such as withdrawing affection and active withdrawal from interaction (Buss, 1961;Carroll et al, 2010;Nelson et al, 2008;Winstok, 2012).…”

Studi Komparasi Marital Conflict Response pada Pasangan Suami-Istri Di Kota Makassar (Ditinjau dari Model Exit, Voice, Loyalty, dan Neglect)

“…Hasil penelitian tersebut memiliki kesesuaian dengan penelitian terdahulu yang dilakukan oleh (Kuncewicz, 2011), laki-laki cenderung melakukan resolusi aktif yaitu voice dan exit (t = -4.74), sementara perempuan lebih melakukan resolusi pasif yaitu neglect dan loyalty (t = 5.27). Bentuk perilaku pasif yang umumnya dilakukan Studi Komparasi Marital Conflict Response pada Pasangan Suami-Istri Di Kota Makassar (Ditinjau dari Model Exit, Voice, Loyalty, dan Neglect) perempuan sebagai resolusi atas konflik pernikahan adalah dengan menerima keadaan seperti, memberi respek kepada suami karena suami dianggap sebagai kepala keluarga, memberi perhatian kepada suami, mencintai pasangan, berada pada kontinum konstruktif, sementara pengabaian dan penghindaran pasangan seperti menghindari percakapan, merasa puas dengan diri sendiri tanpa adanya pasangan berada pada kontinum destruktif (Asadi et al, 2016).…”