“…Instead, it appeared to be much more productive to adopt a flexible research approach that left ample space for indirect talk about the topic-centering, for instance, on (successful) pregnancies, delivery-related fears, hypothetical cases of loss, others who had experienced a loss, past and present demographic policies, and other related issues. 5 As time passed and I perfected this "rear-mirror methodology" (Ledeneva 2011;Wamsiedel 2017), consolidated my position within various social networks, got better versed in the Romanian language and local codes of behavior, and even carried myself a pregnancy that was labeled "high-risk," I saw people's openness gradually increase. Eventually, a considerable part of my time in the field was spent talking, directly, to parents who had lost a fetus or a child-or "parents of angels" (pȃrinţi deîngeri), as they often like to call themselves.…”