Friction and wear reduction by diamond-like carbon (DLC) in automotive applications can be affected by zinc-dialkyldithiophosphate (ZDDP), which is widely used in engine oils. Our experiments show that DLC’s tribological behaviour in ZDDP-additivated oils can be optimised by tailoring its stiffness, surface nano-topography and hydrogen content. An optimal combination of ultralow friction and negligible wear is achieved using hydrogen-free tetrahedral amorphous carbon (ta-C) with moderate hardness. Softer coatings exhibit similarly low wear and thin ZDDP-derived patchy tribofilms but higher friction. Conversely, harder ta-Cs undergo severe wear and sub-surface sulphur contamination. Contact-mechanics and quantum-chemical simulations reveal that shear combined with the high local contact pressure caused by the contact stiffness and average surface slope of hard ta-Cs favour ZDDP fragmentation and sulphur release. In absence of hydrogen, this is followed by local surface cold welding and sub-surface mechanical mixing of sulphur resulting in a decrease of yield stress and wear.