Caregivers usually reach out to professionals because they are concerned about their child's behaviour or development. Their much beloved child does not seem to act the way other children do. Parents of autistic children, prior to that child's diagnosis, will have likely noted their child's delays in reaching typical developmental milestones, more frequent or intense behavioural dysregulation, and have general concerns around their child appearing 'different' (Crane et al., 2018). They may worry that their parenting choices are to blame for child's difficulties.Parents often feel intense distress akin to grief after their child receives an autism diagnosis (Abbott et al., 2013;Mulligan et al., 2012). Sinclair's (2012) iconic essay, Don't Mourn for Us, recognizes that many parents feel such grief because of their 'shattered expectations'. This grief is further fueled by the 'stories of autism' crafted for families by both professionals and popular media. The diagnostic entity of autism is a subjective construct used by society to interpret and categorize behaviour, affect and ways of thinking -a sort of story or narrative (Duffy & Dorner, 2011). The way we share this diagnostic story with families will guide their thinking about 'how to accommodate and respect autistic children -and how to love them . . . Or they help autistic[s] . . . understand themselves, [and learn] how to get on in a world of neurotypicals' (Hacking, 2009, p. 502). Dominant autism narratives, including those shared by the diagnostician at the initial diagnosis, will be heard and internalized by families, autistic children and society as a whole.Until recently, the diagnosis of autism has been framed from a deficit-based perspective as seen in diagnostic manuals such as the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.; DSM-5; American Psychiatric Association, 2013) and the International Classification of Diseases, 11th Revision (ICD-11; World Health Organization, 2008), as well as theories that describe autism as fundamentally characterized by central deficits in social motivation (e.g. Chevallier et al., 2012), or other skills. Not only genetic (e.g. Bailey et al., 1995), but also environmental (e.g. Christensen et al., 2013) literature on the aetiology of autism frames challenges as deficits rooted in the autistic person. The result is that the medical model has created stories of autism in