“…Some of these reasons resemble barriers found in previous studies in adult healthcare and welfare, such as the concern over being a burden (Metze et al, 2015b, 2019) and shame and fear of rejection (de Jong & Schout, 2013a, 2013b; de Jong, Schout, & Abma, 2015; de Jong, Schout, Pennell, et al, 2015; de Jong et al, 2018; Meijer et al, 2019; Metze et al, 2015a, 2015b; Schout et al, 2017; Schout & de Jong, 2017). The reluctance to ask for (more) support confirms prior research on the principle of reciprocity (Mauss, 2002) in public mental healthcare, general social welfare and elderly social welfare (Bredewold et al, 2016; de Jong, Schout, & Abma, 2015; de Jong, Schout, Pennell, et al, 2015; Malmberg‐Heimonen & Johansen, 2014; Metze et al, 2015a, 2015b). As in other contexts, couples in rehabilitation care also consider reciprocity as the basis for interpersonal relationships and fear that asking more support would disturb the fragile balance of give and take in the relationships with the members of their social network.…”