Objective: To examine the connection between winning and losing and family functioning. We do this by hypothesizing a link between successful outcomes in individual competition and in functional family interaction. This enables us to show how therapeutic interventions can be directed toward the attachment system, by lowering anxiety and fostering mutual trust, and toward the social rank system, by promoting success and feelings of empowerment.Method: A search of online databases was conducted with key search terms related to winning and losing, and their effects on attachment patterns and family interactions.Results: Winning in agonistic encounters has been associated with lowered dysphoria, anxiety, and hostility. These affective states trigger positive patterns of family interaction through their effect on the social rank and attachment systems.
Conclusion:Continued success promotes adaptive cycles of interaction, whereas inability to accept loss has the reverse effect. Early humans, who were more successful in competition, were better able to promote the survival and well-being of other family members, which would have accelerated our phylogenetic adaptation. Résultats : Gagner dans des rencontres agonistiques est associé à une diminution de la dysphorie, de l'anxiété, et de l'hostilité. Ces états affectifs déclenchent des modèles positifs d'interaction familiale par leur effet sur les systèmes de rang social et d'attachement.
Conclusion :Le succès continu favorise des cycles d'interaction adaptatifs, alors que l'incapacité d'accepter de perdre a l'effet contraire. Les premiers humains, qui réussissaient mieux dans la compétition, étaient plus aptes à promouvoir la survie et le bien-être des autres membres de la famille, ce qui aurait accéléré notre adaptation phylogénétique.W e all love to see the people we support win, be it in sports, the arts, their work, or any other domain that matters to them. Why do we resonate so strongly to others' successes and failures? Could these reactions have had a survival value in the past? We recently described the biological mechanisms associated with winning and losing. 1 We now explore the meaning of these reactions in families, bearing in mind that, in the hunter-gatherer era, many or most members of the group were related. We show how one family member's success or failure can infl uence the fi tness of another family member, drawing attention to a feature of natural selection that has largely been overlooked. Families vary in their functioning. While some are resilient, caring, and supportive of each other, with securely attached children, others interact in more negative ways. Successes and failures in life may lead to functional or dysfunctional patterns of family interaction, which, once established, may persist over generations. We show how these variations served an adaptive function in the distant past, while having therapeutic implications for today.