When Friends Have Other Friends

Parker, Jeffrey G.; Kruse, Sara A.; Aikins, Julie Wargo

doi:10.1002/9781444323542.ch22

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“…Friends typically have other friends, resulting in painful feelings of jealousy for some youth when friends share time, thoughts, feelings, and support with others. Girls typically report more jealousy in friendships than boys , and this gender difference is stronger in adolescence than childhood . Perhaps because girls spend more time than boys in dyadic interaction and self‐disclosure, adding to the interaction a peer who is friends with only one of the girls may be uncomfortable .…”

Section: Understudied Friendship Tasksmentioning

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“…Girls typically report more jealousy in friendships than boys , and this gender difference is stronger in adolescence than childhood . Perhaps because girls spend more time than boys in dyadic interaction and self‐disclosure, adding to the interaction a peer who is friends with only one of the girls may be uncomfortable . Also, although the feelings of closeness and affection that characterize girls’ friendships do not necessarily require exclusivity, sharing a friend with another person may challenge friendships that are emotionally close.…”

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confidence: 99%

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The Social Tasks of Friendship: Do Boys and Girls Excel in Different Tasks?

Rose

Asher

2016

Child Dev Perspectives

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Research documents the strengths of girls’ friendships compared to boys’ friendships leading to the inference that boys are not very skilled as friends. In this article, we use a friendship tasks framework to propose that this inference is premature and should be reconciled with evidence that boys are as satisfied as girls with their friendships and that their friendships are as stable over time. We also propose that the inference arises partly because the friendship tasks that girls handle well have been studied extensively, whereas certain friendship tasks boys handle as well as or more successfully than girls are understudied. These tasks include being a fun and enjoyable companion, coping when a friend violates a core expectation of friendship, and sustaining friendships in the broader social context of a friend having other friends. Finally, we suggest that girls and boys who develop skills to respond to a range of friendship tasks will benefit in the long term.

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Section: Understudied Friendship Tasksmentioning

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The Social Tasks of Friendship: Do Boys and Girls Excel in Different Tasks?

Rose

Asher

2016

Child Dev Perspectives

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“…Other research suggests that individuals may use subtle forms of aggression in order to avoid the social backlash that could come with overt aggression, while reaping similar benefits in terms of harm to others (Björkqvist, 1994; Xie, Swift, Cairns, & Cairns, 2002). For instance, peers who experience friendship jealousy presumably fear losing their friend’s approval and companionship, so they might try to hurt an interloper’s social status in a covert way to avoid a negative evaluation from their friend (Parker et al, 2010). Culotta and Goldstein (2008) studied the association between self-reported jealousy and physical and relational aggression among adolescents.…”

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“…A key characteristic of friendship jealousy is the involvement of a third party, who Parker and colleagues (2005) call an “interloper.” In order for friendship jealousy to occur, the target must believe the interloping peer is a threat to the target’s friendship. Even if a friendship continues despite the target’s jealousy, the target may sense a decrease in the quality of the friendship or a lack of exclusivity in the relationship (Lavallee & Parker, 2009; Parker, Kruse, & Aikins, 2010). Experiencing friendship jealousy can damage an individual’s self-esteem and motivate him or her to act in ways to preserve the friendship and/or deter the interloper (Parker et al, 2005).…”

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Associations Among Friendship Jealousy, Peer Status, and Relational Aggression in Early Adolescence

Kraft

Mayeux

2016

The Journal of Early Adolescence

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This study investigated the associations among peer status, friendship jealousy, and relational aggression in early adolescence, with a focus on peer status as a moderator of the association between relational aggression and friendship jealousy. Three hundred eighteen sixth-, seventh-, and eighth-grade students completed a sociometric assessment of relational aggression, popularity, and peer preference, and a self-report friendship jealousy measure. Relational aggression was negatively correlated with peer preference, but positively correlated with popularity for boys and girls. Regression analyses showed that peer status moderated the association between friendship jealousy and relational aggression for girls and boys. At low levels of peer preference, high friendship jealousy was positively associated with relational aggression for girls, but negatively associated with relational aggression for boys. Findings are discussed in light of friendship and social status maintenance processes.

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“…Children and adolescents show considerable heterogeneity in their emotional and behavioral responses to their friends’ other friends and extradyadic social activities [1]. Lavallee and Parker [2] for example, report small to moderate positive correlations between feelings of jealousy in these circumstances and several negative behaviors, including friend surveillance, rifling through a friend’s belongings in search of evidence, interrupting a friend who is talking to someone else, and engaging in certain forms of aggression, such as trying to get other children to exclude a certain individual from the group.…”

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Beliefs about the controllability of social characteristics and children’s jealous responses to outsiders’ interference in friendship

Lavallee

Parker

2019

PLoS ONE

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Although some jealous children respond to outsider interference in friendships with problem solving and discussion, others withdraw from the relationship or retaliate against the friends or others. Beliefs about the nature of social characteristics are proposed as an explanation for behavioral heterogeneity in response to jealous provocation. Based on learned helplessness theory and research on children’s implicit personality theories, children who subscribed strongly to the belief that social characteristics are fixed and that social outcomes are uncontrollable (high entity beliefs), were expected to more strongly endorse asocial and antisocial responses and less strongly endorse prosocial responses to outsider interference than children who did not have strong entity beliefs, depending on their internal versus external attributions of blame. Two hundred eighty-six children in sixth through eighth grades (primarily Caucasian) participated in an experimental test of this hypothesis. Although hypothesized interactions between beliefs and locus of blame were not supported, results indicated that children who believe social characteristics are changeable also believed they had more control in the internal condition than children who believe social characteristics are immutable. Further, pessimistic children were more likely to tend to endorse asocial and antisocial behavior and less likely to endorse prosocial behavior than optimistic children.

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When Friends Have Other Friends

Cited by 18 publications

References 72 publications

The Social Tasks of Friendship: Do Boys and Girls Excel in Different Tasks?

The Social Tasks of Friendship: Do Boys and Girls Excel in Different Tasks?

Associations Among Friendship Jealousy, Peer Status, and Relational Aggression in Early Adolescence

Beliefs about the controllability of social characteristics and children’s jealous responses to outsiders’ interference in friendship

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