“…Taken together, this article has drawn on a specific case study—an ethical limit case as it relates to sexual ethics—to demonstrate the limits of the consent model and the potential for the pleasure and care‐centred ethic of embodied and relational sexual Otherness approach to offer an alternative way forward. By focusing on the themes of Otherness, care, pleasure, transgression, embodiment, and communication, a more capacious understanding of intimate relations is able to attend to some of the structural and interpersonal inequities (misogyny, heteropatriarchy, and sex‐gender stereotypes) that work to either dismiss or naturalize expectations and gendered norms around sex and relationships (Manne, 2017; Sikka, 2021, 2022). The dual cases taken up here, beginning with Avital Ronell, represent a clear case of crossed boundaries and harassment and bring to the fore many of the concerns taken up by #MeToo as it relates to power, labor, and entrenched institutional inequities that persist even when the respective subject positions of those involved are unexpected (i.e., a queer woman and gay man).…”