“…In those historical representations, spouses who work hard at their separate responsibilities and rarely need or want to verbally communicate with each other are held up as beautiful examples of mature love. Ella (Embree) Wiswell, researching with her husband John in Suye village in the 1930s, heard a group of younger married men comparing romantic love with married love to suggest that the latter is more subtle, stable, and constant (Smith and Wiswell 1982, 179; see also De Vos andWagatsuma 1961, 1210). In contrast to an immature or childish "puppy love," for instance, Lebra's interlocutors in the 1970s describe mature love as occurring between spouses who live largely separate lives, but do so for the benefit of each other.…”