Intimacy is often motivated by love, but sometimes it is merely functional. For example, disrobing and being touched at an airport security check serves the goal of catching a flight, not building a relationship. We propose that this functional intimacy induces discomfort, making people prefer greater social distance from their interaction partner. Supporting this prediction, participants who considered (Experiments 1 and 2) or experienced (Experiment 3) more physically intimate medical procedures preferred a health-provider who is less social. Increased psychological intimacy also led people to prefer social distance from cleaning-and healthproviders (Experiments 4-5), a preference revealed by nonverbal behavior (e.g., turning away and looking away, Experiments 6-7). These patterns of distancing are unique to functional (vs. romantic) intimacy (Experiment 7). Although creating social distance may be an effective strategy for coping with functional intimacy, it may have costs for service providers. 'normal-human-emotions-don't-exist zone'?" -Washington Post reader, 11/25/2010 Emotional closeness typically accompanies physical intimacy. Kisses and caresses go naturally with declarations of affection, but not all intimacy is tied to emotional connection.Some intimacy is purely functional, undertaken to pursue non-relational goals. When an airport security agent performs a full-body pat down or a physician performs an intimate medical procedure, the recipients of these procedures are not seeking love, but only to catch their flight or to stay healthy. On the one hand, security checks and medical procedures may be objectively valuable services that recipients want, but on the other hand, the physical and psychological intimacy inherent in these procedures is usually unwanted. As the Washington Post reader in the opening quotation suggests, submitting yourself to being "intimately groped" by strangers at airport security is at odds with normal human emotion. In these uncomfortable situations of functional intimacy-intimacy that serves a non-relational goal-we propose that individuals will socially distance themselves from their interaction partners. We test this hypothesis through seven experiments.
Types of IntimacyPrior research explores how people react to different types of intimacy, with most focusing upon intimacy in relationships, that is, intimacy among two (or more) people interested in forming, building, or maintaining a relationship (for review see Mashek & Aron, 2008). In this context, individuals react to intimacy positively, both seeking and reciprocating intimacy to achieve their goal of relationship closeness. A second type is "imposed intimacy," whereby someone imposes unanticipated or unwarranted intimacy onto a recipient; examples include Functional Intimacy 4 sexual violations but also more mundane situations where individuals do not seek intimacy (e.g., crowded subway cars). In this context, the dominant response is to avoid the perpetrator of intimacy and behaviorally "compensate" ...