“…Countering the ideology of intimacy in mainstream interpersonal theories where people are encouraged to give clear, honest, self-disclosure to each other, they discuss studies where couples either overstate their similarity or seek to avoid disagreement by not mentioning their differences. Calling this a negotiated collusion rather than a state of "oneness," Brown and Rogers (1991) Much of the personal relationships literature on facework focuses on people who are already in established relationships (Agne & White, 2004;Carson & Cupach, 2000;Hodgins & Liebeskind, 2003;MacGeorge, Feng, Butler, Budarz, 2004;Manusov, Kellas, & Trees, 2004;Miller & Roloff, 2007;Zhang & Stafford, 2008). Other literature studies dissolving relationships (Frisby, Booth-Butterfield, Dillow, Martin, & Weber, 2011;McBride & Braithwaite, 2008;Miller, 2009;Wilson, Kunkel, Robson, Olufowote, & Soliz, 2009;Young, Paxman, Koehring, & Anderson, 2008).…”