Objective: to understand the experiences of Nursing professionals with the families of children hospitalized in a pediatric intensive care unit. Method: this is a qualitative study, using the analysis of the structure of the situated phenomenon as a methodological reference, carried out with 19 Nursing professionals working in the pediatric intensive care unit, of a public hospital in the state of São Paulo. We analyzed the speeches from the interviews according to the guidance of Martins and Bicudo. Results: two thematic categories emerged: "The family-being important for children in the pediatric intensive care unit"; "Being-yourself in the technique mode in family care in the pediatric intensive care unit". Discussion: the inclusion of the family does not happen in the studied unit because despite perceiving the benefits that the families bring to the child, they let it appear that they do not truly understand the importance of the presence of the family in the pediatric intensive care unit, revealing a long way to go. This is because professionals will need to be equipped to share this care, which is currently the sole responsibility of the Nursing team. Conclusion: this study revealed that