Patients suffering from schizophrenia or bipolar affective disorder may progressively worsen and become severely disabled, and may then be classified as suffering from severe and enduring mental illness. Concern about risk to self and others focuses on this patient group, and community psychiatric nurses (CPNs) are under pressure to target patients with this diagnosis. CPNs have been accused of neglecting patients with a severe and enduring diagnosis in favour of other patient groups, but if they restrict services at primary care level this may have serious implications for patients. Patients who have had no previous contact with mental health services may have potentially serious and life threatening conditions. For example, depressed men may not be categorized as severely mentally ill, but the suicide rate amongst this patient group is very high, and they may externalize depression and resort to violence if untreated. Depressed men may lack social support and the means to express psychological distress, and these factors may precipitate or exacerbate depression. Early referral and assessment can prevent crises, deterioration in mental health and suicide. CPNs do not necessarily have to provide ongoing care following assessment, but they do have a significant role to play in primary health care referrals for the non‐psychotic mentally ill. CPNs act as a filter for the expertise and resources of multidisciplinary mental health teams. General practitioners will have increasing difficulty accessing the resources of multidisciplinary mental health teams if CPNs are unable to accept primary health care referrals. Primary care interventions are very important for the assessment of depression because they may help men to express psychological distress and assist them to access appropriate services and treatment. The experience of working with depressed men in a primary health care setting revealed that many lack confidants, or do not confide in those close to them. The interview schedule designed by Brown & Harris (1978) to gather data on the relationships of depressed women was used to explore the relationships of depressed men who were attending a Mental Health Day Centre.