This study reveals how self-regulated cognition in advance of social interaction can resolve the so-called "ingratiator's dilemma" that the most attractive targets of social influence, those who have relatively high social status, tend to be the most difficult to ingratiate successfully. Our theoretical argument suggests that, in anticipation of social interaction with a relatively highstatus colleague, corporate directors tend to reflect on characteristics shared with that colleague, while avoiding thoughts about characteristics not shared. We explain how this pattern of cognition induces genuine positive feelings and admiration for the colleague, such that their interpersonal behaviors are less likely to appear as insincere attempts to curry favor, and thus more likely to engender influence. We further suggest that this pattern of cognition is especially valuable when interacting with relatively high-status colleagues who are demographically dissimilar from the focal actor. Finally, our theoretical framework indicates how this selfregulated cognition facilitates advancement in the corporate elite by positively moderating the effects of one's interpersonal behavior on the likelihood that colleagues will recommend him/her for a board appointment. We test our hypotheses with a unique dataset including survey data from a large sample of directors collected before and after meetings.