Soul Mate Selection Among Adolescents: The Kinetics and Health Perceptions and Interpretations

Abstract

Soulmate is a brother/sister relationship, practiced and known by many people but just a few especially adolescents understand the exact meaning hence the need to provide adequate information regarding the selection. Adolescents have the tendency to deviate from social norms in search of identity and most often unsure of themselves as most of their experiences rest in the hands of their peer groups. Soulmate comes in form of stranger, healing, wrecking ball, twin and true love soulmates. These are highlighted in the elements of soulmate as one who makes you feel entirely whole, healed, and intact like no piece is missing. Adolescents make selection on the basis of physical attractiveness, economic and social status, age, religion. Finding a true soulmate result in having a feeling of security and protection, falling in love, sharing the same life goals, respect for each other's differences and opinions. However, wrong mate choices could result in social and health consequences such as prostitution, medical problems and suicide. Kinetics and Health strongly emphasize on aesthetics, general wellness including spiritual wellbeing as strong indices of wellness which could be cached on during mate selection. Conclusively, mate selection is a matter of destiny ordered by God but as two loving people who have settled for each other's strength or weakness, the decision is yours. The recommendation among others is that adolescents should be counseled to focus selection of mate on attitude as against physical attributes and made a priority among undergraduate students due to growing cases of rape in Nigeria.