“…Some participants felt more content when they lived in the moment without placing pressure on themselves, 10,29,34 others chose to be forward thinking 25,30,32,74 at the same time as being kind to themselves 29,32,37,71 . Participants began to identify with being a person who is dependent on others, 26,27,65,73 who has constraints on ability 29,37,56,57 and who has a changed future and relations 25,45,57,61 . With increasing control and flexibility over their choices and opportunities, participants became more future‐oriented 26,29,35,37,71,74 …”