Response to Sally Howard

Herzog, Bruce

doi:10.1080/15551024.2012.710309

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“…The other kind of affectsharing experience is "active sharing," involving shared affect with the therapist through an activity, which occurred when the patient shared her excitement with me via the mutual experience of going out to see her new car together. 5 The "relational template" (Herzog, 2012b(Herzog, , 2015 refers to the automatic interactive behaviors and presumptions that primarily originate within the child-parent dyad. It is as a constellation of learned interactive habits activated by a specific relational context, with behavioral, affective, and cognitive components, mostly learned in childhood and applied repeatedly to relationships throughout life.…”

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“…5The “relational template” (Herzog, 2012b, 2015) refers to the automatic interactive behaviors and presumptions that primarily originate within the child–parent dyad. It is as a constellation of learned interactive habits activated by a specific relational context, with behavioral, affective, and cognitive components, mostly learned in childhood and applied repeatedly to relationships throughout life.…”

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The fantasy relationship: Repetition’s antidote and an explanation for resilience.

Herzog¹

2018

Psychoanalytic Psychology

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Resilient patients from pathological backgrounds can manifest an ability to defy unacceptable relational experience and replace it with a wished-for way of relating: the "fantasy relationship." Through the negation of each bad interaction, the fantasy of a potential good interaction is necessarily created, contributing to the evolving construction of an idealized parent-child dyad in the imagination. Attempts to actualize a fantasy relationship in reality involve occupying either of the 2 roles in the dyadic fantasy-that of the ideally loved child or the ideally loving parent-a phenomenon described as "role exchangeability." The fantasy relationship is an improvement on the repetition of maladaptive relational patterns, but because fantasy involves more flawless idealization than pragmatic experience, applying it leaves one vulnerable to rage reactions if others refuse to correctly occupy the accompanying role. Through a successful therapeutic process, an alternative form of relating can develop, one that is sufficiently idealizable, yet flexible, forgiving, and pragmatically attainable.

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