This paper takes up the issue raised by Aron and Atlas of the transformation of fate into destiny and the reacquisition of a sense of agency in one's future. The paper suggests that past and future need not be framed as binary and examines the way in which struggles, traumas, and impasses of the past can also represent "legitimate guiding forces," as Freud put it, for envisioning a different future. The paper illustrates this perspective with a clinical vignette.
THE FUTURE BEGAN LAST WEEKFollowing an initial consultation with Mark, a married young professional with two children, his therapist was looking forward to her first treatment session with him. As in any new treatment, there was much to learn, but as far as she had determined, it seemed that he came from a solid, intact family albeit with high and rigid expectations of their children. There wasn't a lot of play in the system on many levels. In part this was due to the family's historical background-they had come from difficult circumstances-but also to the personal idiosyncrasies of the parents. Mother was noted as particularly concrete and exacting. Mark was expected to be-and was-a good boy, a good man, a good father, a good spouse, and now he hoped to be a good patient.Mark did not show up for his first therapy appointment. He was the last person his therapist imagined would not come. About midway through the time, she called him. Mark said, "Oh, I'm about to leave." It seems he had gotten the hour wrong. They scheduled to meet the next week. Mark came. He felt humiliated. He had been really looking forward to the session. He hadn't understood how he had messed up. Now, he figured it out. He had looked at his schedule the evening before, saw the ending time, and had mistaken it for the starting time. And he was pleased to see that, for once, he could sleep a little later. As the session unfolded, Mark talked 1