“…The seminal issue for most men is how prephallic, preoedipal, primordial vulnerability, phallic narcissism, and omnipotence become integrated into an evolving bodily/mental sense of masculinity. The masculine phallic ego ideal, initially based on the unconscious denial of differentiation and grandiose wish for maintaining an omnipotent, idealized union with his maternal object, sustains an impossible illusion (Figlio 2010). This so-called illusion defends against the narcissistic, mortifyingly shameful, and often fragmenting experiences associated with his primordial vulnerability, which is signified by being small, insufficient, lacking, and in need of the object.…”