Passion, Intimacy, and Time: Passionate Love as a Function of Change in Intimacy

Baumeister, Roy F.; Bratslavsky, Ellen

doi:10.1207/s15327957pspr0301_3

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“…Most people regard it as inappropriate to begin having intense, intimate sexual activity right away, even though some people may feel sexual desire very early in a relationship (e.g., Baumeister & Bratslavsky, 1999;Cohen & Shotland, 1996). Hence, early in a relationship, couples may be restraining their impulses and desires, whereas after they have come to trust each other and establish some degree of intimacy, they may engage in more sexual expression without conflict.…”

Section: Sexual History and Sexual Restraintmentioning

confidence: 99%

Self‐Regulation and Personality: How Interventions Increase Regulatory Success, and How Depletion Moderates the Effects of Traits on Behavior

Baumeister

Gailliot

DeWall

et al. 2006

Journal of Personality

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Self-regulation is a highly adaptive, distinctively human trait that enables people to override and alter their responses, including changing themselves so as to live up to social and other standards. Recent evidence indicates that self-regulation often consumes a limited resource, akin to energy or strength, thereby creating a temporary state of ego depletion. This article summarizes recent evidence indicating that regular exercises in self-regulation can produce broad improvements in self-regulation (like strengthening a muscle), making people less vulnerable to ego depletion. Furthermore, it shows that ego depletion moderates the effects of many traits on behavior, particularly such that wide differences in socially disapproved motivations produce greater differences in behavior when ego depletion weakens the customary inner restraints.Self-regulation is an important personality process by which people seek to exert control over their thoughts, their feelings, their impulses and appetites, and their task performances. The human capacity for self-regulation appears to be much more extensive than what is found in other animals, which may suggest that the evolutionary pressures that guided the selection of traits that make up human nature, such as participation in cultural groups, found self-regulation to be especially adaptive and powerful (Baumeister, 2005). If so, then self-regulation may be one of the most distinctively human traits. Even if human beings are capable of more self-regulation than other animals, however, their capacity is far less than what many Correspondence concerning this article may be sent to R. Baumeister,

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Section: Sexual History and Sexual Restraintmentioning

confidence: 99%

Self‐Regulation and Personality: How Interventions Increase Regulatory Success, and How Depletion Moderates the Effects of Traits on Behavior

Baumeister

Gailliot

DeWall

et al. 2006

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“…Most partners in long-term relationships do behave as expected, however, and, as a consequence, the partners seldom arouse each others' intense emotional passions-either positive or negative. Baumeister & Bratslavsky (1999) propose that degree of passion is a function of a rapid change in intimacy, where "intimacy" is defined similarly to Companionate Love and to Reis & Shaver's (1988) definition of intimacy (i.e., knowledge and understanding of the other combined with communication of a strong positive attitude toward the other). These theorists endorse the generally accepted view that intimacy usually grows gradually, but in those instances in which it rises rapidly, passion should result; in addition, citing Berscheid's model, they predict that when intimacy stabilizes, the relationship should become passionless.…”

Section: Temporal Hypothesesmentioning

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Love in the Fourth Dimension

Berscheid

2010

Annu. Rev. Psychol.

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Psychologists' efforts to understand love began in the mid-twentieth century. The fact that they continue apace in the twenty-first century reflects increased awareness of the importance of love to understanding relationship phenomena and acknowledgment that an understanding of love has yet to be achieved. This article (a) describes one source of increased recognition that the present confusions surrounding love must be transcended if progress is to be made in understanding many relationship phenomena; (b) discusses the failure to explicate the love construct, which constitutes the major obstacle to the study of love phenomena; (c) discusses the need for a temporal model of love in relationships; and (d ) suggests that it is important to consider the presence or absence of four types of love, each of which appears to be associated with different causal conditions and thus is likely to have a different temporal course as an adult relationship moves through time.1

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“…Baumeister and Bratslavsky (1999) reviewed indirect evidence suggesting that rapid increases in intimacy induce positive, relationship-specific emotions such as passion. Karney and Frye (2002) found that married partners base their judg-ments of satisfaction with their relationship more on perceptions of recent improvements than on the quality of the relationship at that particular time.…”

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Linking Relationship Quality to Perceived Mutuality of Relationship Goals and Perceived Goal Progress

Avivi¹,

Laurenceau²,

Carver³

2009

Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology

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Two goal-related variables were examined as predictors of relationship quality. One was the perception of mutuality of goals held for the relationship; the other was the perception of progress regarding those relationship goals. a mediation model was considered whereby relationship goal mutuality predicted quality via perception of goal progress. Study 1 examined cross-sectional associations among these variables in 245 dating participants. results of a path analysis (controlling for effects of relationship conflict) were consistent with the mediation model. Study 2 replicated these findings in a sample of 78 committed romantic couples, using an electronic diary methodology to gather data from both partners about relationship quality across multiple time points. Study 2 also extended the findings by examining a dyadic mediation model with both mediated actor effects and mediated partner effects. Findings suggest a central role for shared relationship goals and for perceptions of relationship goal progress in the context of romantic relationships.

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Passion, Intimacy, and Time: Passionate Love as a Function of Change in Intimacy

Cited by 219 publications

References 92 publications

Self‐Regulation and Personality: How Interventions Increase Regulatory Success, and How Depletion Moderates the Effects of Traits on Behavior

Self‐Regulation and Personality: How Interventions Increase Regulatory Success, and How Depletion Moderates the Effects of Traits on Behavior

Love in the Fourth Dimension

Linking Relationship Quality to Perceived Mutuality of Relationship Goals and Perceived Goal Progress

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