Nrimo In Pandum: Description of Javanese Self-Acceptance After the Family Died

Abstract

Nrimo ing Pandum (Attitude of Acceptance) This Javanese philosophy is the attitude of accepting wholeheartedly all the shortcomings of what is done, never complaining. Self-acceptance is one of the most important factors for being happy. a person who can accept himself has a realistic assessment of his potential and a positive assessment of his self-esteem. The individual experiences a severe event after a family member (father) dies. The purpose of this study is to reveal in depth the cultural picture of nrimo ing pandum (self-acceptance) of the Javanese after their family members die. The method used in this research is descriptive qualitative. The design of this research is ethnographic research that reveals aspects of a culture, namely Javanese culture. Data analysis was carried out with three streams of activities that occurred simultaneously, namely data reduction, data display, and verification. The research data were obtained from two Javanese people whose father died in the last three years. Based on data analysis, it was concluded that the process of self-acceptance consists of five stages and the factors that support self-acceptance of the Javanese are; The process of accepting self and circumstances, realistic expectations, social support, influence of success, identification with well-adjusted people, parenting style, and positive self-concept.

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