Abstract. In this paper a computational analysis is made of the circumstances under which joint decisions are or are not reached. Joint decision making as considered does not only concern a choice for a decision option, but also a good feeling about it, and mutually acknowledged empathic understanding. As a basis a computational social agent model for joint decision making is used. The model was inspired by principles from neurological theories on mirror neurons, internal simulation, and emotion-related valuing. The computational analysis does not only determine the different possible outcomes of joint decision making processes, but also the possible types of processes leading to these outcomes, and how these may relate to specific cognitive and social neurological characteristics of the persons.