Abstract:This paper explores the common parenting style tension around nurture versus limit‐setting often evident when working with families with a symptomatic child. Firstly it will delve into the parenting ‘soft/hard split’ with an overview of the literature on parenting styles. Next, it summarises the appearance of this phenomenon in the family therapy literature during its formative days, noting how Bowen, Minuchin, Haley, MRI (Bateson), and the Milan associates respond to this parent presentation in their approach… Show more
“…Theoretically, this cohort of clinical families implies you are working with the manifestation of a central concept in Bowen family systems therapy – an emotional distance in the couple relationship, which fuels a focus on a child or children, which in turn reciprocally fuels symptoms and increases parental concern and child focus. Emotional distance in couples can manifest behaviourally in different ways, often observed by clinicians as ‘a soft hard split’ (Brown, 2023) or conversely as a harmonious cooperative parenting team. In the latter, the underlying emotional process is often hidden from families and clinicians.…”
Section: The Context Of Cymhs Teams and The Relevance Of Emotional Tr...mentioning
confidence: 99%
“…This is what Bowen theorised as a major factor underlying severe and chronic symptoms in children and adolescents as it unwittingly denies a young person the impetus to put their emotional energy into grappling with the developmental challenges of adolescence and grow their own capacities and resilience (Bowen, 1978). As Brown (2023, p. 230) writes, ‘the child's developmental breathing space becomes emotionally overcrowded and the child comes to play their part in the triangle by increasingly focusing on their parents’.…”
Section: The Context Of Cymhs Teams and The Relevance Of Emotional Tr...mentioning
In clinical work with families in which a young person is at real and significant risk of self‐harm or even death by suicide, predictable emotional triangles both within the family and within the treating system intensify. As understandable fear and worry in parents and clinicians rises in response to potential risk, these emotionally driven relational processes become even more rigid. This typically results in a reduction in cognitive and behavioural flexibility, which can potentially and unwittingly increase the risk of self‐harm by suicide. This article outlines some basic principles pertaining to the notion of emotional triangles, a central concept in Bowen family systems theory; its relevance for clinicians working with suicidal youth and their families; and its application to the context of a community child and youth mental health service. Practical application of theory to clinical work is demonstrated through clinical vignettes that describe the work of two clinicians and their clinical supervisor. The authors reflect on their understanding of the development of emotional triangles in the vignettes presented alongside their efforts to navigate these triangles through the regulation of their own anxiety and more objective thinking.
“…Theoretically, this cohort of clinical families implies you are working with the manifestation of a central concept in Bowen family systems therapy – an emotional distance in the couple relationship, which fuels a focus on a child or children, which in turn reciprocally fuels symptoms and increases parental concern and child focus. Emotional distance in couples can manifest behaviourally in different ways, often observed by clinicians as ‘a soft hard split’ (Brown, 2023) or conversely as a harmonious cooperative parenting team. In the latter, the underlying emotional process is often hidden from families and clinicians.…”
Section: The Context Of Cymhs Teams and The Relevance Of Emotional Tr...mentioning
confidence: 99%
“…This is what Bowen theorised as a major factor underlying severe and chronic symptoms in children and adolescents as it unwittingly denies a young person the impetus to put their emotional energy into grappling with the developmental challenges of adolescence and grow their own capacities and resilience (Bowen, 1978). As Brown (2023, p. 230) writes, ‘the child's developmental breathing space becomes emotionally overcrowded and the child comes to play their part in the triangle by increasingly focusing on their parents’.…”
Section: The Context Of Cymhs Teams and The Relevance Of Emotional Tr...mentioning
In clinical work with families in which a young person is at real and significant risk of self‐harm or even death by suicide, predictable emotional triangles both within the family and within the treating system intensify. As understandable fear and worry in parents and clinicians rises in response to potential risk, these emotionally driven relational processes become even more rigid. This typically results in a reduction in cognitive and behavioural flexibility, which can potentially and unwittingly increase the risk of self‐harm by suicide. This article outlines some basic principles pertaining to the notion of emotional triangles, a central concept in Bowen family systems theory; its relevance for clinicians working with suicidal youth and their families; and its application to the context of a community child and youth mental health service. Practical application of theory to clinical work is demonstrated through clinical vignettes that describe the work of two clinicians and their clinical supervisor. The authors reflect on their understanding of the development of emotional triangles in the vignettes presented alongside their efforts to navigate these triangles through the regulation of their own anxiety and more objective thinking.
This paper overviews Bowen family systems theory and its approach to family therapy. It aims to introduce this influential approach and a sample of developments in theory and practice since Bowen's first publications of his research and theory. This paper is the second edition of a 1999 article with the same title (Brown, Australian and New Zealand Journal of Family Therapy, 20, 94 and 1999) and, 25 years later, offers new insights from the original author's ongoing research into the theory. This new edition is in collaboration with a second author and Bowen theory scholar, bringing fresh perspectives on the theory's applicability to family therapy practice. The core concepts are presented briefly, and a case example with a parent and symptomatic adolescent demonstrates how theory informs the role of the therapist and the therapeutic work. Examples of criticisms of Bowen theory are also discussed, including the misinterpretation around the idea of emotion in Bowen theory that is communicated in Gottman's training. Differentiation of self is clarified as the integration of emotion and intellect rather than privileging one over another, which affords the opportunity for individuals to avoid being governed by the invisible strings of sensitivities in relationships and instead be themselves in good emotional contact with the other person.
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