The ground state of neutral and negatively charged excitons confined to a single self-assembled InGaAs quantum dot is probed in a direct absorption experiment by high resolution laser spectroscopy. We show how the anisotropic electron-hole exchange interaction depends on the exciton charge and demonstrate how the interaction can be switched on and off with a small dc voltage. Furthermore, we report polarization sensitive analysis of the excitonic interband transition in a single quantum dot as a function of charge with and without magnetic field.Spin control and manipulation in mesoscopic semiconductor systems have attracted extensive attention within the last few years. The activity in this field is driven by the idea of using spin states for quantum information processing and quantum communication. In particular, semiconductor quantum dots (QDs) have been considered for realization of spin quantum bits [1, 2] as they offer the potential advantage of scalability and tunability. For spin qubit processing in QDs, an optical scheme has been envisioned [3]. Other proposals involve a combination of spin and charge excitation [4] or an all-optical implementation of quantum information processing [5] in QDs. All proposals have a common crucial requirement, namely resonant and spin selective excitation.Significant progress has been made with naturally formed QDs [6] based on resonant control of excitonic states [7,8], leading to the recent demonstration of an optical CROT gate [9]. Self-assembled QDs have the advantage of longer excitonic coherence time due to stronger confinement. They have been proved to serve as a source of non-classical light for secure quantum communication [10,11,12,13]. An implementation of self-assembled QDs as a spin sensitive post processing read-out tool can be envisioned. Electric dipole transitions are spin sensitive, such that the spin information of the optically active state is imprinted onto the photon polarization. High efficiency single photon devices [14] could provide high yield for spin qubit detection.Recently, we have reported resonant exciton creation into the ground state [15,16] and the first excited state [17] of a single self-assembled QD. In the work presented here, we address the topic of polarization selective resonant creation of excitonic states in a single self-assembled InGaAs QD by high resolution laser spectroscopy. We report results on the spin mediated anisotropic electron-hole exchange and on the polarization dependence of the excitonic states as function of charge, electric and magnetic field.The InGaAs QDs investigated in the experiments were grown by molecular beam epitaxy in the self-assembly Stranski-Krastanow mode and are embedded in a field effect heterostructure [18]. Highly n-doped GaAs acts as back electrode followed by a tunnel barrier of 25nm GaAs and the InGaAs QDs. An annealing step was introduced in order to shift the photoluminescence (PL) emission energy to around 1.3 eV [19]. The QDs are sequentially capped with 30 nm GaAs and a 120 nm AlAs/GaA...