Mechanistic understanding of the structural basis for DNA recombination in the Cre-loxP system has largely been guided by crystallographic structures of tetrameric synaptic complexes (intasomes). These structural and biochemical studies have suggested that conformational changes and DNA bending in presynaptic complexes underlie site-selection and activation mechanisms of Cre recombinase. Here we used protein engineering and various DNA substrates to isolate the Cre-loxP (54 kDa), Cre2-loxP (110 kDa), and Cre4-loxP2 assembly intermediates, and determined their structures using cryo-EM to resolutions of 3.9 Å, 4.5 Å, and 3.2 Å, respectively. Progressive DNA bending along the assembly pathway enables formation of increasingly intimate protein-protein interfaces. Insufficient stabilization of important protein motifs observed during the assembly process provides a compelling explanation for the observed half-the-sites activity, and preferential bottom strand cleavage of loxP sequences. We found that selection of loxP sites is largely dependent on the ability for Cre to bend and stabilize the spacer region between two recombinase binding elements. Application of 3D variability analysis to the tetramer data reveals a propensity for motion along the pathway between protomer activation and Holliday junction isomerization. These findings help us to better understand loxP site specificity, controlled activation of alternating protomers, the basis for the observed bias of strand cleavage order, and the importance of conformational sampling, especially with regards to site-selection and activity among Cre variants. Furthermore, our findings provide invaluable information for the rational development of designer, site-specific recombinases for use as gene editing technologies.