In this discussion of eating disorders, symptoms are viewed as responses to unprocessed and unprocessable affect--what Stolorow and Atwood, Krystal, and Sifneos have called "alexithymia." The article explores ways in which a group experience can help to provide an arena for the articulation and exploration of this affect. The group can provide its members with the responsive milieu necessary for the development of an internal structure that eliminates the need for the eating behavior. The metaphor of a child learning to swim is used to suggest that the group process can be seen as a kind of group "swimming lesson." Group members work together with the therapist to develop the necessary skills and muscles to negotiate the waves of their own feelings, making the eating behavior unnecessary.A toddler, just becoming a solid walker, goes to the ocean with her family. Her mother holds one hand, her father the other, and they wade out into the water, letting the foam lap over the little girl's feet. She giggles with glee, then chortles loudly as they lift her over the little waves that break at their feet. After a time she communicates that she wants to sit in the water. Her parents watch her carefully, but even so, a sudden wave washes over her before they can lift her up. They quickly pick her up, make sure she is alright, cuddle her and soothe her, and put her back down in the water. Or, if she is too frightened, they return to their initial stance, each holding a hand, and lifting her over the smallest of the waves, near the edge of the water, until she feels safe and secure enough to play in the water again.The next year, the same little girl comes back to the beach, but this time, although she is physically larger and stronger and more sure on her feet, she is a little frightened of the water. She has learned that the world is not always comfortable and safe, and she is not so sure she wants to move out into these very visibly active seas.When one of her parents takes her in their arms and wades out beyond the breakers, the little girl clings tightly, but she trusts that her parents can manage the waves even though she cannot. She enjoys it, but she is still not