Much is written throughout the chapters of this book about the struggle for men to understand what it means to be a man, with attention given to class, culture, race, and ethnicity. There is also much written about men wanting to relate with other men, even in ways that are intimate and affectionate. At this point in the various discussions, however, there will likely be a line drawn. This is a line of discomfort that seems to occur when the depth of male-male yearning moves from affectional to sexual.There are areas of commonality among all men, but there also exists a clear demarcation, with gay men either on the outside or, at least, on the other side. This is because the ways in which gay men yearn for intimacy and connection with other men often seem different and frightening.Heterosexual, or straight men, often feel uncomfortable with gay men. Slavson (1964) wrote this regarding the types of people that he thought were inappropriate for group psychotherapy: "The presence of a homosexual patient, whether active or latent, in a group of non-homosexuals, greatly intensifies anxiety in the latter. . . . the climate of the group reflects a sort of fear resembling the restlessness of a herd of animals who sense the proximity of a dangerous enemy" (p. 216). This is an old attitude; yet, it seems in some ways to be as true a feeling and perception today as 30 years ago. Gay men are often seen not only as different but as a threat.