We introduce and characterize a flexure-tuned optomechanical system in which a membrane is positioned microns from one end mirror of a Fabry-Perot optical cavity. By gently flexing the membrane's silicon frame (to 80 m radius of curvature (ROC)), we access the full range of optomechanical couplings predicted by a 1D scattering model; by more aggressively flexing (to 3 m ROC) we demonstrate >15 µm membrane travel, ∼ milliradian tilt tuning, and a wavelength-scale (1.64±0.78 µm) mirror-membrane separation. This passively-aligned, monolithic geometry will greatly simplify the tasks of mechanical and laser stabilization, and provides a platform for realizing flexure-tuned, wavelength-scale "membranein-the-middle" (MIM) systems and wavelength-scale two-membrane cavities for nested optomechanical systems. Finally, we provide analytical expressions for the leading-order optomechanical couplings, finding that this system can generate linear dissipative and quadratic dispersive strong coupling parameters that are orders of magnitude larger than is possible with a MIM geometry. Additionally, this system can achieve purely quadratic dispersive coupling with suppressed linear dissipative back-action, thereby reducing unwanted force noise and alleviating the requirement of single-photon strong coupling for resolving a membrane's phonon number states. * vincent.