First, Best, Forbidden and Worst: Memorable Experiences of Intimate Kisses Among Heterosexual and Sexual Minority U.S. Adults

Abstract

Intimate kissing is often viewed as a preliminary or ancillary behaviour in studies exploring sexual interactions. There is a lack of research that focuses on differentiating the types of intimate kisses, including the contexts in which they occur, and desirable and undesirable features. The current study was designed to assess memories of first, best, forbidden and worst kisses. Participants were 691 U.S. adults (mean age 32.27 years; 55% identified as male) who completed an online survey addressing kissing attitudes and experiences using both structured and open-ended survey tools. Four themes emerged through content analysis: physical components, connection to the partner, context, and emotions evoked; and these are discussed for all four types of kissing memories. Findings are discussed in terms of embodiment that intimate kisses capture, their role as a metric of one's attraction to a partner, and the means by which kissing experiences might solidify a sense of oneself as a sexual person.

Can a kiss conquer all? The predictive utility of idealized first kiss beliefs on reports of romantic love among U.S. adults

“…Because idealized kissing beliefs influence relationship/courtship scripts, kissing likely has a large role in predicting expectations in romantic relationships ( Sprecher and Metts, 1989 , 1999 ; Driesmans et al, 2016 ). In fact, our findings support existing literature documenting the importance of one’s first kiss ( Robinson, 1992 ; Regan et al, 2007 ; Simpson et al, 2020 ). Evidence of the importance of kissing can be gleaned from research by Rice et al (2017) indicating that people can remember approximately 90% of the details surrounding their first romantic kiss (more than the proportion of details remembered relating to one’s sexual debut).…”