“…As psychologists, we understand that the ability to talk with others and to share information about oneself can be fundamental to psychosocial well-being (Roen 2019) and that development happens in an ecological context (Schweizer et al 2017). Our findings resonate with others by showing that talking to others about variations in sex characteristics is framed by fear of rejection (e.g., Jones et al 2016, Alderson, Madill, and Balen 2004, Sani et al 2019, Guntram and Zeiler 2016, limited social understanding of intersex characteristics (Enzendorfer and Haller 2020, Breu 2009, Jones et al 2016, The European Union Fundamental Rights Agency 2020, Liao 2003 and problematic understandings of gendered embodiment as binary (Brömdal et al 2017, Guntram andZeiler 2016). Some young people want to talk about their variation because they want to connect with others, derive support and talk about their future, including honest talk with partners (see also Ernst et al 2016, Liao 2003.…”