Emotion Regulation on Wives Victims of Domestic Violence in Christianity Undergoing the Forgiveness Phases

Abstract

by years, nearly 50% of the cases were Christian family wives. The principle of Christian marriage is no divorce except by death. This study aims to examine the dynamics of emotional regulation on the wives of victims of violence in Christian households in undergoing forgiveness phases with a qualitative approach and three participants. There are five emotional regulation strategies: situation selection, situation modification, attentional deployment, cognitive change and response modulation. There are four forgiveness phases: uncovering, decision, works and deepening. The results showed that all three participants underwent the four phases of forgiveness in the same direction, as well as experiencing repetition in the work and deepening phases. In undergoing each phase of forgiveness, they used the five or part of the emotional regulation strategy in the same direction or back and forth. The most of the emotional regulation strategy used to achieve forgiveness are cognitive change by reappraisal their suffering through studying God's words of forgiveness and response modulation by still loved their husband and mother-in-law and prayed for them, also become good wife and mother.