Coping with Envy and Jealousy

Comprehending envy.

“…Salovey and Rodin (1988) interpreted these findings to mean that the more effective strategies for reducing initial envy appear to be stimulus focused rather than self-focused. Salovey and Rodin (1988) speculated that the person who has accumulated repeated envying-inducing situations, despite attempts to dismiss their relevance for the self, may begin to experience generalized feelings of sadness and anger along with various self-deprecating thoughts. Self-bolstering may be an effective strategy for moderating these self-deprecating thoughts and muting these negative affective reactions, as suggested by the research on the buffering effects of having multiple valued aspects of the self on the depressive effects of specific failure (Linville, 1987;Rothermund & Meiniger, 2004).…”

Responses to Social Exclusion: Social Anxiety, Jealousy, Loneliness, Depression, and Low Self-Esteem

“…fealousy. Jealousy, or more specifically, social-relations jealousy arises when an individual perceives that a valued relationship is threatened by someone else (Salovey & Rodin, 1988). Jealousy tends to be characterized by diffuse emotional distress, including anxiety, depression, and anger (Pines & Aronson, 983;Salovey & Rodin, 1988;White, 1981).…”

The enhancement of intimacy and the reduction of loneliness among child molesters

“…It is important, and quite rational, to express feelings early rather than wait until they build to levels where they are difficult to control. It has been found that self-reliance strategies are the most effective in dealing with jealousy (Salovey and Rodin, 1988), whereas doing something enjoyable as a distraction is not effective. Strategies involving self-reliance require the person to make increasing efforts not to give up and be overwhelmed emotionally, and to challenge the perceived unfairness of the situation.…”