The softness of elastic atomic collisions, defined as the average number of collisions each atom undergoes until its energy decorrelates significantly, can have a considerable effect on the decay dynamics of atomic coherence. In this paper we combine two spectroscopic methods to measure these dynamics and obtain the collisional softness of ultra-cold atoms in an optical trap: Ramsey spectroscopy to measure the energy decorrelation rate and echo spectroscopy to measure the collision rate. We obtain a value of 2.5 (3) for the collisional softness, in good agreement with previously reported numerical molecular dynamics simulations. This fundamental quantity was used to determine the s-wave scattering lengths of different atoms but has not been directly measured. We further show that the decay dynamics of the revival amplitudes in the echo experiment has a transition in its functional decay. The transition time is related to the softness of the collisions and provides yet another way to approximate it. These conclusions are supported by Monte Carlo simulations of the full echo dynamics. The methods presented here can allow measurements of a generalized softness parameter for other two-level quantum systems with discrete spectral fluctuations.Elastic collisions are of great importance in atomic physics, both from a theoretical and a practical point of view. They are relevant for atomic clocks, metrology, quantum information, evaporative cooling, atom-ion hybrid systems and more [1][2][3][4][5][6]. Collisions may also have a significant effect on the coherence properties of an ensemble of atoms, providing either elongation [7][8][9][10][11][12][13][14][15][16] or shortening [17,18] of the atomic coherence time.Considering a rapid collisional process compared to other dynamical timescales [19], there exist two extremities for a colliding atom in the center-of-mass frame of the interacting ensemble: "hard collisions", in which the energy of the atom is completely randomized after a single collision, and "soft collisions" in which the atomic energy remains almost unchanged after each collision [14]. We therefore define the "collisional softness" parameter, s, as the number of times an atom has to collide in order for the correlation between its initial and final energies to drop to 1/e [20]. The collisional softness of hard collisions is one, since the energy correlation drops to zero after a single collision. Collisions are considered "soft" if their softness parameter is much larger than unity. Even though the s-wave collisional process considered here is itself is of universal nature, the softness of the collisions can be affected by the confining potential. This can be intuitively understood by considering that only the kinetic energy changes due to a collision whereas the potential energy does not, carrying a "memory" of the energy prior to the collision.More formally, an ensemble of colliding trapped thermal atoms has two relevant characteristic rates. First, the atomic collisions, treated as a Poisson process ener...