“…Externalization of the alien self is desirable for the child with a disorganized attachment but is a matter of life and death for a traumatized individual who has internalized the abuser as part of the self. The unbearable emotional experience can include feeling abandoned, evil, misunderstood, victimized, inferior, and monstrous (Bradley & Westen, 2005;Zanarini, Frankenburg, Hennen, & Silk, 2003;Zittel Conklin & Westen, 2005). The externalization of these internal states is widely recognized in the common counter-transferential reactions of therapists working with borderline patients -anger and hatred, helplessness and worthlessness, fear and worry, resentment, and urges to save and rescue the patient (Gabbard & Wilkinson, 1994).…”