We investigate the flow around a black hole moving through a cloud of self-interacting scalar dark matter. We focus on the large scalar mass limit, with quartic self-interactions, and on the subsonic regime. We show how the scalar field behaves as a perfect gas of adiabatic index γ ad = 2 at large radii while the accretion rate is governed by the relativistic regime close to the Schwarzschild radius. We obtain analytical results thanks to large-radius expansions, which are also related to the small-scale relativistic accretion rate. We find that the accretion rate is greater than for collisionless particles, by a factor c/cs 1, but smaller than for a perfect gas, by a factor cs/c 1, where cs is the speed of sound. The dynamical friction is smaller than for a perfect gas, by the same factor cs/c 1, and also smaller than Chandrasekhar's result for collisionless particles, by a factor cs/(cC), where C is the Coulomb logarithm. It is also smaller than for fuzzy dark matter, by a factor v0/c 1.