“…Because of the historical exclusion of same‐sex couples from civil marriage and the queer, counter‐normative culture that developed in its place (Green ), same‐sex couples may enjoy greater freedoms to construct relationships outside norms that typically guide heterosexual relationships (Heaphy, Donovan, & Weeks, ). Green (, ), for example, collected U.S. data before civil marriage was available to same‐sex couples, finding that as children, straight and gay men shared ideas about monogamy and the characteristics of a “proper” relationship. However, as their respective sexual orientations materialized in adolescence and young adulthood, straight and gay men encountered distinct structural contexts that produced systematic changes in the directions of their sexual careers.…”