Abstract. Leibniz said "Naturam cognosci per analogiam": nature is understood by making analogies. This statement describes a seminal epistemological principle. But one has to be aware of its limitations: quantum mechanics for example at some point had to push Bohr's model of the atom aside to make progress. This article claims that the physics of granular packings has to move beyond the analogy of frictionless spheres, towards local models of contact formation.On earth solid assemblies of granular particles are by far the most frequent phase of granular matter; we encounter granular packings everywhere from our kitchen cabinet to civil engineering textbooks. In order to make their handling, transport, and storage more efficient, we strive for a theory that predicts their mechanical properties, such as shear and bulk modulus or yield stress, starting from a few state variables only. Efforts to develop such a theory often start by modeling granular packings as an assembly of frictionless spheres. This is a rather unsuitable starting point, for a number of reasons:1. All granular particles are frictional. 2. Frictional particles have lower isostatic numbers than frictionless particles. 3. Granular physics happens at volume fractions inaccessible to frictionless particles. 4. The volume fraction of soft particles can be changed by compression. The volume fraction of frictional particles is changed by changing their geometry. 5. Friction is one reason for history dependence in granular systems. 6. Real world granular media are rarely spherical.Shape adds complexity, e.g. to history dependence.These six theses are also the outline for the following sections. They are intended to provoke discussions with a sizeable subgroup of the theoretically or numerically working scientists. Many experimentalists, applied scientist, and engineers might find them, at least in part, well-known. For simplicity, we will discuss in the following only monodisperse spheres; except for section 6.