“…Attachment theory posits that the responsiveness of a security‐providing person to one's needs is at the core of emotional health and well‐being and that these needs continue throughout the life span (Dinero, Conger, Shaver, Widman, & Larsen‐Rife, 2008; Shaver & Mikulincer, 2012). Adults thrive in the presence of a sensitive, available, and caring partner, yet gender shapes both skills and expectations regarding whose needs are important and who should respond to them and how (Knudson‐Martin & Huenergardt, 2010; Tuttle, Knudson‐Martin, & Kim, 2012). Although attachment theory privileges the ways of relating that have historically been considered feminine (Vatcher & Bogo, 2001), in the day‐to‐day life of most heterosexual couples, women are expected to be the glue that holds adult relationships together (Mahoney & Knudson‐Martin, 2009), just as women are still expected to automatically attend to the needs of children (Cowdery & Knudson‐Martin, 2005).…”