The optimization of heating metering method in the heating season has very important and practical value for energy saving and emission reduction, however, existing studies haven’t comprehensively analyzed the heating metering and charging management systems adopted by residential buildings with adjustable heat supply, and the problem of fair heat sharing hasn’t been well solved yet. To fill in this research gap, this paper designed an individual household-based heating metering and charging management system. At first, the paper gave the structure of the system and introduced the system functions, then, it analyzed the hydraulic characteristics of the heating system and the influence on the heat dissipation volume of the radiator, and constructed the heating metering and heat distribution model. At last, the paper proposed a scheme for heating metering and heat sharing in cases of normal operation and on-off heating adjustment of individual household radiator, and the effectiveness of the proposed scheme was verified via experimental results.