This article explores identity as a relational phenomenon and focuses on how identity is constructed in the context of friendship. The article draws on interview data from eight young women who had experienced intimate partner violence (IPV) and examines how their friends' responses to the IPV influenced the young women's perceptions of themselves. It also demonstrates how the relational construction of identity may be analyzed using the Listening Guide method, which explores the use of voice in constructing the self. Our analysis identified four voices that young women used to speak of themselves in relation to their experiences of IPV: voices of self-blame, voices of agency, voices of vulnerability and powerlessness, and voices of solidarity. These voices were shaped by their friends' responses, intersecting with dominant cultural narratives about how women are expected to respond to IPV. When speaking of how friends had expected and encouraged them to leave the abusive relationship, the young women used voices of self-blame or voices of agency, which constructed themselves as foolish for staying or strong for leaving. Yet, when friends recognized the complexities of ending the abuse and thereby countered cultural narratives about expected responses to IPV, young women spoke with a voice of solidarity. Using this voice, young women positioned themselves as disempowered and constructed a collective identity shared with others who had experienced IPV. The findings highlight the significance of friends in shaping young women's self-perceptions and the benefits of friends telling a counter story about the challenges of ending IPV.